Dating in the Silicon Valley must be hell.

The sheer thought of asking "how I performed" in one of the most subjective fields is the most ai-esque thing I read in a while

sure, and there are obvious pitfalls, but IMHO it's much better than going to a 100+ dates and not reflecting on what went wrong/well after any of them.

(tangentially related recommended reading https://danluu.com/p95-skill/ )

Yes. There were never any performative parts to dating prior to the release of ChatGPT in November, 2022.

I didn't say it wasn't performative before

Nothing new. It was not great 10+ years ago. I always found NYC to be a much more fun city in that regard. The Bay Area folks always had nothing better to talk about except work.

And burning man.