The sheer thought of asking "how I performed" in one of the most subjective fields is the most ai-esque thing I read in a while

sure, and there are obvious pitfalls, but IMHO it's much better than going to a 100+ dates and not reflecting on what went wrong/well after any of them.

(tangentially related recommended reading https://danluu.com/p95-skill/ )

Yes. There were never any performative parts to dating prior to the release of ChatGPT in November, 2022.

I didn't say it wasn't performative before