Again, let's think of two children fighting over their shares of a cookie. Child A says he should get all of the cookie. Child B says that wouldn't be fair, the cookie should be split evenly, half and half.
The adult in the room decides to promote common ground, and gives 75% of the cookie to A and 25% to B.
who exactly is the adult in the room supposed to be in this analogy? There _is_ no adult in the room, just the two children.
The adult in the room here is the moralizing "enlightened centrist" that puts bothsideism in every conversation about politics.
Just remember that 1984 is fiction and not an instruction manual. Try not to get too authoritarian over demographics (any and all of them).