Aah, so by definition only a select few can do it

I would say only a few do it and they are self-selected. The ones that do it have a sense of agency that is lacking in the ones that dont do it.

It’s not only agency, and it sounds like you do your own thing which is great, but the pressure coming with it is not bearable by many. It’s kind of similar to competitive sport, thousands train and put the effort chasing a wild goose, but only handful make it big. That’s why it raises a question many others: is it really worth it?

And for that, I agree with you, it’s self-selected to take the suffering jounrey