Hey,
I would like to show you my project, but it's difficult because it only works with a registration, so I explain the concept to you.
The Idea: Everyone who registers has to do an onboarding and answer meaningful questions that help you to find a right match. The matching happens by the system. Once you're done with the onboarding, you enter the pool. When a match is found, you go into a 1on1 14 question-set with that person. All answers are revealed immediately. At the end both decide if they form a connection or not. Only if both agree, the chat opens. Once a connection is formed, they can play through other prepared question sets, so the conversation doesn't get dry. It's also possible to create custom question sets to play through with your connected matches.
I just got this idea because I really wanted away from all the typical friendship and dating apps that are just a marketplace of user profiles. I feel like that's the only hook other apps offer, people come back because they are bored and browse through profiles. On tinder it's swiping through pictures and on other apps it's a list of profiles where you can filter with your matching criteria. But all that felt just shallow to me. I think people rarely ask the right questions each other, like really mandatory things that matter to form a any kind of relationship with someone. I've been on multiple different social platforms and it always felt mega shallow. Most people can't even start a good conversation, it's often just stuck at small talk. Maybe it's not even peoples fault, that's why I tried with these question sets to tackle multiple problems. First, that you don't even have to bother with someone if you have entirely different worldviews, which you would normally just find out if you talk long enough with someone. And second, just killing the small talk issue, by giving people a base.
So before I started coding this project, I actually did a research if there is anything backed by science to find out, which kind of questions would actually matter to find out, if you can handle someone. There were a lot of studies I've found e.g. "Aron and colleagues (1997)", "Hall (2019)", "Byrne (1971)", "Finkel and colleagues (2012)" and "Hazan and Shaver (1987)". I took their research work and tried to create questions based on them.
The project is running on Next, Postgresql, everything dockerized, running on a small Hetzner VPS. I used Claude+Codex to develop everything, but I wouldn't say it's really vibecoded, since I work as a Senior Dev and I used my main tech stack.
It's an open beta currently and it's live for like 14 days - I have ~150 users right now. And honestly, I am really overwhelmed by those numbers, because it's the first time that I ever managed to attract this amount of people on a project I've launched.
When I started, I launched it as a closed beta, so it was invite only. During that period I got so much good feedback from people, it was incredible. I implemented almost everything my first users told me. Since all the changes, I didn't retrieve any further feedback what people wish would be different. It's just constant good feedback since then. People contact me from alone and just tell me how much they like these questions and the loop.
My marketing strategy is mainly Reddit currently, but I started also new methods. I found some super relevant subreddits that had no rules against advertising. When I wrote my posts on reddit, I didn't mention a product name or link. I've only described the idea and if somebody would have interest trying it out. That worked surprisingly well. Another thing I've done was using a social app that allows anonymous posts at your current location, kinda something like "Nextdoor". Posts on this app bring me daily 1-5 new registrations.
I wonder what you guys think about it and I am open for any critics!
What's being done to thwart profile miners and scammers? The expectation is we chat with the real person. Not advocating ID verification, but if you pay real money then a billing address provides sufficient info, and if you don't have $300 for years of memories then please go away.
Good point. So far I only have email verification. There is no billing yet, everything is free currently. On long term I plan to offer convenience features and for example to possibility to create custom question sets. Those gonna be premium features and I will offer that way cheaper than the competitors. It's a good idea that this could also be the verification level and maybe I could add a matching criteria that only verified premium users match with each other.
Really like the idea and signed up, most dating apps are meat markets designed to fleece money off the basic human need for connection. Hope it catches on! Also, i had multiple answers to a lot of the questions, where only 1 or 2 were possible.
Yea exactly. The onboarding questions are designed like that on purpose, that you can't choose every answer, because they are matching criteria.
But when you land in a 1on1 it's more relaxed. Often multiple choice and even a comment field with free text.
Your email confirmation link’s domain is in common adblock lists.
Thanks for that info. I am currently using brevo.com and the dashboard says that over 98% of mails were delivered. I already started to register Amazon SES, currently waiting for the DKIM verification. So seems like a good time to switch soon. I hope that helps, since smtp servers and email domain warmup is not really a topic I know much about honestly.
Update: Will add SSO soon
Not the email, the link in it is blocked by ad blockers. You might want to check the number of emails sent versus the number confirmed.
Oh, okay. Which ad blocker are you using? I am using ublock origin and didn't notice that issue. I will take a look. Thanks
very cool that image is blurred until after match. what subs on reddit did you post on? how does your algo compute "likeness" between two people.
I've firstly searched for subreddits that are international but none of those allowed me even to just pitch the idea. Then I suddenly found German subreddits for searching friends and they had either no rules, no active mods, or the mods just allowed me to post. I searched a few city subreddits of Germany as well. And yea, I am actually from Germany so it made it even more easy then.
The matching works on 5 dimensions, such as - social energy, directness, worldviews. Each weighted on how important it is for you. The matching also tries to pair people with the same activity on the app, means someone who just turns in once a week won't be preferred in matching with someone who opens the app daily. There are also some hard and soft criteria's users can configure in their matching settings, such as age range, locations, gender, etc.
I hope that answers your questions. I have a deep dive on the matching system on my faq page if you're curious