I think it’s the opposite of messy tbh. It’s clear cut. You might not like it but that’s a separate discussion.
Re your colleague: I wouldn’t want to talk about it other than showing empathy for the person. At your workplace… outside of work you can talk whatever you want.
This isn’t a work context. This is a board game meetup, lol. Do you not have friends outside of work?
Oh I see. so it’s my fault now that I didn’t understand what you were describing.
And no. I don’t have any friends not even at work.
I literally said in my first post that I am speaking in a board game context.