I'm a bit familiar with Rapier (and before that Cannon and Ammo) so how does it compare?

PS: FWIW made my own physics engine in 3D space just few weeks ago (and shared it here). OK ok ... it's just a 1-liner that brings an object down at regular interval but it's surprising how well it works already! I recommend you give it a go as from a learning perspective it's really fun.