Some key lines:

> There is no “right” without a “wrong” to make it right

> Once I stopped treating correctness as an absolute, I stopped needing to win.

> Arguments Are About Ego

> They feel first, then reason backward to justify the feeling

> let people meet their own consequences, because that’s the only teacher they’ll actually listen to.

> when someone [asks], I give everything I have.

> Let people disagree. Their disagreement is where the money, and the meaning, is.

> Every hour spent trying to change someone who didn’t ask is an hour stolen from the one person (yourself) you can change

I am sure each person will extract different lessons here from their walk of life, but as an engineer the lines above are a watershed moment on how to view the world. Engineers are quite intelligent creative people who have big dreams. And sometimes in pursuit of those dreams with a feeling of intelligence we swim in creativity ... and put ourselves in a God-complex. We don't judge humans appropriately when we are in this God-complex.

1. Appreciate the wrong. It is a different way of thinking.

2. Stop trying to win. This is not a fight.

3. Arguments are about ego, but ego is about defending yourself. So arguments are really in self-defense.

4. If someone has more emotion than intelligence at a given moment, ignore their ideas. It doesn't count. It is clouded. This is how women judge between informations. They look at the emotion of the person speaking. The calmest one wins.

5. Some people like making bad decisions because it helps them learn. You can't do anything here.

6. Information provided vs Corrections made: But when someone does not seek information, don't give it. And don't correct someone unless you are their boss.

7. You can't change people... is a lesson I can never understand.