Maybe to neurotypical newbies. To others it's going to be a giant "fuck off".

For our situation, building a foundation of trust in our community is more important than attracting as many contributors as possible. If a one-time face-to-face introduction is infeasible, then there are many other projects to contribute to. (And this is considering that our community is all math PhDs, cryptographers, and compiler engineers; we are no strangers to neurodiversity.)

I can only speak from my perspective, as someone who's lightly neurospicy with a good serving of crippling social anxiety on top, but having to jump on a quick discord call with the maintainer of a project I was excited about wouldn't be a deterrent to me.

Yes it sucks, but it's better than not regulating whatsoever, and at least this way I could be more certain my contributions didn't get drowned out.