Becoming a dad simultaneously made me more empathetic (seeing a little person from the beginning for all they are) but also more impatient (fewer hours in the day), but beyond that not much. Given the notoriety about some of the techniques referenced in this article [0] curious if others notice anything more consistent.
Empathy, I’m not sure, but I can confirm the lack of patience.
I had less time, less energy, and my tolerance for BS plummeted accordingly.
The lack of tolerance towards BS and people being difficult in general has gone out the window for sure. In the morning, sure, you get a lot of slack, but when the kindergarten closes at 16:30 and it's now 15:30, I don't have time for people being difficult. We solve the problem, we have 30 minutes, if you're being difficult I'll ignore you. You can complain tomorrow.
I can add to the personal experience piece. I am way more emphatic, to the point I apparently now tear up on certain movies/shows. Also yeah way more impatient and honestly more selfish now due to lack of personal time.
Hell, some TV commercials make me tear up.
Songs too.
With four kids, I think I have grown more patient with people in general. Also one who got more sentimental.
The youngest of my three is now 14. When it's come to managing developers raising kids is a superpower
After my child was born, I could no longer even look at newspaper headlines where something bad happened to a child.
Now, I can read the headlines, but I still can't read the articles.
I'm still at step one. It's just unbearable. And the rage I feel at people who are apathetic or "there's nothing we can do" is so strong.
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