You could also actually go to a rave. It should be easier than setting up your VR environment.

I'd recommend the same, dancing with strangers is very different than dancing at home alone.

With that said, not everyone lives in locations where these sort of parties are accessible, for some it's multiple hours away and not always doable. I'm happy both exists, but obviously, prefer in-person events myself any day of the week, and if people haven't experienced it before, they definitely should :)

I would need to drive 4 hours to get to a city that has raves, pay for a hotel, parking, entrance fee, and it would take 24 hours of my time

Then search for weekend music festivals, which are usually longer than a weekend. Not Coachella because I hear that ones been enshittified, but like Coachella except good.

The longest one I know runs for 6 days, Wednesday to Monday. Not everyone stays there the whole time. It's awesome. Although the more awesome one I know was Thursday night to Monday morning.

Do try to stay for the last night. At least here in Europe, the crowd who doesn't go home on Sunday night is the most interesting crowd.

And? Back in the day people used to regularly go from northern California to southern and vice versa for a good party

By people I mean me, I'm sure some people are still doing it

And, I'm saying what you want is different than what I want, and not everybody has to do what you want