Yeah but more independence means it will eventually lead to the breakdown of family structures because if the US is anything to go by where 75% of divorces are women initiated you’re going to end up with broken families all over, dads in jail due to the inability to pay child support, parent less kids. In South Asia there is a tremendous amount of good that comes from having stable families even if everyone in it is not a 100% satisfied with their life.
That being said, I’m not against any of this progress but you can’t just introduce these sweeping societal changes to millenia old traditions and expect the social order in the country to survive.
What you are hiding in the "not 100% satisfied" are higher levels of domestic violence and abuse. Living in such situation massively sux and is impossible to escape.
There is also tremendous bad and horror in all that. Some peoples lives completely sux due to that.
It’s not hiding. Yes there may be domestic abuse but at the same time it’s not like the man is just cruising through life either. He is essentially having to work very hard for many many hours a week to provide for his family. So no one is really 100% happy but I would posit that the overall level of life satisfaction is much higher than whatever we have currently created in the United States (obviously this assumes that there is enough money for the basics and necessities of life and a middle class salary). You see these numbers bear out in India in happiness indexes if you specifically exclude people that are not in the upper or middle classes.
Tell mw more about how Afghanistan men are oppressed compared to women.
Or how child bride subject to lifelong violence and dependency has it as bad her husband, because he needs to work.
Afghanistan is an extreme case. For something less extreme I think the Middle East as a whole works well.