I don't think you are annoyed. You have done this to produce a reproducible linux distribution which your partners sell support for.
I wouldn't find this annoying at all - I would expect to have to do this for hundreds of packages.
Without unpaid volunteers things like Debian do not exist. Don't malign the situation and circumstances of other projects, especially if they are your competitors.
Compete by being better, not by complaining louder.
Sure, individual maintainers offer general purpose consulting services, but if we all did that for the next 20 years to keep the lights on we will never make a tiny fraction of the money we could have made by paywalling the binary artifacts like Chainguard and others do.
Stagex is and will forever be a community owned project.