Respectfully, I think you're missing my point.

> So very often with these hyper competitive games played between strangers competing for global ranking, the whole thing turns very toxic, with gamers often seeming to not even enjoy the moment to moment process, often raging at their incompetent team mates or raging at their opponents for supposedly cheating, or whathaveyou.

This is very true! I'll further grant that many competitive video games have pain points that fester this. Competition, facing failure, and recognizing that what they perceived to be a fair challenge wasn't so (e.g. cheating) does sometimes out the worst in people.

However, my point is that competition, and enjoying it, is something that's been fundamentally human for all our recorded history. The sensation of straining against the edge of your capabilities, to overcome a wall, and then succeeding even just barely is supreme. Competitive video games are just a subset of activities that appeal to this. And I think just as much as they are infuriating, they are also good!

Moreover, competitive video games can also be fairly social. Playing a chiller game with friends is one way to socialize, that I have nothing against. But there's also special bonds that are forged through shared struggle, even minor. For example, the fighting game community has a very strong local scene. If you can play fighting games, in most major cities in NA you can attend your local and make friends. With team competitive games, invite your homies.

Once again, I definitely do not dispute that competitive video games can be toxic. Especially in today's online culture. Taking fighting games as an example again, the online, anonymous, communities can be quite toxic. Ah, now that I've written this far, I'm realizing that maybe I've missed your point? Are you saying that it's specifically the strangers, that you never get to know and therefore trust, that makes this worse off?