The book that changed the game for me is “Leadership and Self-Deception”. The thesis being that the root of resentment is self-betrayal, where self-betrayal is denying your impulse to do right by others.

Ever since I read it, I’ve been more aware of when I am fixated on I and me.

It’s amazing. You can be completely “right” about a situation, yet still be fixated about the self. Escaping the box - terminology from the book - doesn’t change what’s real, but absolutely changes how you feel, and how your situation progresses.

Whether it is self help or blame or resentment, they are all in the box activities. There is another world- a better world.