It may be that Nostr just isn’t for you. The tradeoffs involved come with costs and benefits, and that mix tends to appeal to two primary groups right now, crypto people and free speech maximalists. (And also quite a few Japanese people, for some reason.) Similarly, the Fediverse has its own limitations and tradeoffs, which appeal to a different set of groups. Both have a healthy number of users and seem to be developing well.

I think that this kind of fragmentation is becoming more common. Not everyone wants to be on a platform with the rest of humanity anymore. And not everyone shares the same design goals for protocols to replace those platforms.