Sometimes listening is hard bc you don't really care or the speaker's way of relaying content and presentation is very boring.
Sometimes listening is hard bc you don't really care or the speaker's way of relaying content and presentation is very boring.
I think there’s often a gender difference here, picture the (very) stereo-typical “blabbering wife” scene.
When we’re driving, my girlfriend will often talk about her day, walking me through her thoughts and feelings, while I just want to zone out after work. We used to get annoyed at each other when I didn’t want to listen.
Eventually, we talked about it and realized what was going on. She needs to process her day out loud, and I need silence to decompress. So now I’ll just tell her, “I’m not really going to be listening fully right now,” and she’ll talk anyway. It’s become a routine, one I actually enjoy now, because there’s no pressure to keep up or respond perfectly.
Would it be better for her if I used this technique of active listening constantly? Sure. But it'd take a lot of effort from me that I just simply dont have driving home from work.