>Do they deserve to just have fucked lives?

Yes. That's what nature does. You are of course free to help them with your personal resources.

> And the state is currently pushing social media onto kids and parents, should it maybe stop doing that, at least?

When did the state have the right to 'push' social media to start with? Do you need a law for everything that can potentially go wrong? How about a generic 'do no harm' law? (I must note that social media can be avoided by most people at this point but I digress.)