I would really prefer a solution that doesn't result in tangible social harm to me. Ideally, I should be able to live my life in public and have it not be absolutely fucking terrible.

I don't think that's asking too much. Really, I don't. Maybe I'm naive, maybe I have high expectations. Or maybe everyone else is a pathetic loser with no spine who actively advocates for things they know harm them, out of some masochistic desire for punishment.

I don't know, you decide.