I've certainly seen my share of buggy multi-threaded programming. On the other hand, that's nothing compared to all the buggy and bad code I've seen overall. And I don't think it's going to get better by telling people not to even try.

I'm very doubtful that multi-threading can be abstracted behind a library. Simple message passing can cover a lot of use cases but not everything by far. I've also seen the Javascript model work fine, but it's not real multi-threading (no parallelism). As to async frameworks, they too are restrictive and they come with a lot of complexity.