I agree with you that this shouldn't be 100% hard defaults, but it's a good standard to have, and imo it's valuable to be explain why one is deviating from it.

> - smaller PRs aren’t necessarily easier to review (and this arbitrary obsession almost always leads to PR overload in chunks that don’t make any sense, reducing code quality as a result)

Oh but they sure can be reviewed more easily, because they are shorter? Doing so feels like less effort, and you get a dopamine hit from hitting that "submit review" button faster/more often (improved morale, and PR turnaround time!). Plus, if there's a longer discussion about X, it's great if it's not tangled up with Y and Z at the same time - allowing you to dig into X.

> - nobody reads intermediate commit messages one by one on a PR, period.

Come on, that's intellectually dishonest. 1. VSCode displays commit messages inline as blame for me (and many of my colleagues), so even when we don't read the commit messages one by one _on a PR_, I often read them later in the IDE (we don't squash merge PRs). I spend significantly more time reading code than writing, and commit messages, PR descriptions and linked issues provide extra context that is useful to me especially for complex code. If those messages were entirely unreadable, I'd be annoyed. 2. When someone invests time into telling a good story commit by commit, in my team they write "Review commit-by-commit is encouraged" in the PR description, to tell the reviewers that yes, they should read the individual commits, as that'll make understanding the PR easier. Often as reviewer, I follow that suggestion.

> Wasting your time with this in a branch, as you work towards a solution, is focusing on the wrong thing

It seams you're conflating "working on a feature" with "presenting it as PR to review". That's two very different things, and Edamagit in VSCode makes it so so easy to provide a reasonable commit history that hides some of your missteps, and to fill in commit messages.