> It definitely needs people with more experience to set up everything

I mean it's not just the experience - it's the upfront time cost and then ongoing maintenance.. and for what? It's really easy to underestimate how much effort this will be

Having done both I genuinely think Rails is a 10x productivity boost over stitching your own mishmash of libraries together in Node

The only lack of flexibility you run into is if you really disagree with the fundamentals of the framework. If you hate the ActiveRecord pattern for example you need to stay away

"shit breaks once complexity comes in" is a skill issue