If an AI bot is accessing my site the way that regular users are accessing my site -- in other words everyone is using the town center as intended -- what is the problem?
Seems to be a lot of conflating of badly coded (intentionally or not) scrapers and AI. That is a problem that predates AI's existence.
So if I buy a DDoS service and DDoS your site, it's ok as long as it accesses it the same way regular people do? In sorry for extreme example, it's obviously not, but that's how I understand your position as written.
We can also consider 10 exploit attempts per second that my site sees.
The issue is that people seem to be conflating badly built scraper bots with AI. If an AI accessed my site as frequently as a normal human (or say Googlebot) then that particular complaint merely goes away. It never had anything to do with AI itself.