Seconded, the person you initially respond to is the target audience of this website, and would probably do well to take it in.

A funeral is not 'some event' that you can just skip for your own benefit. That's not what it's about.

Well, it turned from the original "breaking down", through "slight discomfort" to "skipping for a benefit". Just let me tell you for someone to break down can mean a panic attack, where they can not catch breath, or they just crawl into a corner acting like a kid, it can mean throwing up violently or it can mean falling into a long term depression. Everyone can have their own reasons and way of processing pain.