All of my doctors for the last five years (Kaiser and Sutter) have no problem with their computers. When I switched from Kaiser to Sutter, the doctor showed me "how easy it is to transfer my full records" (they both have Epic, plus a custom integration). I have no trouble communicating while they use their computer, and handle just about everything through the captive website (which is a bit slow- sometimes the pharmacy faxes a request to my doctor, who ignores faxes until I ping them).

The one important thing is to know how to work the system. Once you understand how it works, it's remarkably easy to guide your doctor or other service providers to do what you want. I talk a lot with the doctor and my spouse (who has taught me a lot), and I also read various online forums. Further I have no truly serious health problems that require intensive care, which could change things a lot.

I understand many people feel differently, and I in no way want to invalidate their subjective experience- if you prefer paper, or find computer doctors impersonal, or anything else, I'm not here to try to convince you otherwise.