Not a physicist either but this passage from the Feynman lectures seem related to what you are describing: https://www.feynmanlectures.caltech.edu/I_07.html
"Many mechanisms for gravitation have been suggested. It is interesting to consider one of these, which many people have thought of from time to time. At first, one is quite excited and happy when he “discovers” it, but he soon finds that it is not correct. It was first discovered about 1750. Suppose there were many particles moving in space at a very high speed in all directions and being only slightly absorbed in going through matter. When they are absorbed, they give an impulse to the earth. However, since there are as many going one way as another, the impulses all balance. But when the sun is nearby, the particles coming toward the earth through the sun are partially absorbed, so fewer of them are coming from the sun than are coming from the other side. Therefore, the earth feels a net impulse toward the sun and it does not take one long to see that it is inversely as the square of the distance—because of the variation of the solid angle that the sun subtends as we vary the distance. What is wrong with that machinery? It involves some new consequences which are not true. This particular idea has the following trouble: the earth, in moving around the sun, would impinge on more particles which are coming from its forward side than from its hind side (when you run in the rain, the rain in your face is stronger than that on the back of your head!). Therefore there would be more impulse given the earth from the front, and the earth would feel a resistance to motion and would be slowing up in its orbit. One can calculate how long it would take for the earth to stop as a result of this resistance, and it would not take long enough for the earth to still be in its orbit, so this mechanism does not work. No machinery has ever been invented that “explains” gravity without also predicting some other phenomenon that does not exist."
It also doesn't account for time dilation in a gravity well however i still think the general idea has some merit if you think of it as being bombarded by massless ‘action potentials’ on all sides with mass absorbing that field to some to enable translation in space time.
I get this is vague spitballing but essentially an ‘action potential’ would allow mass to move. Higher temperature mass interacts more, lower temperature interacts less. Mass with momentum would be biased to absorb more from one side so it travels in a specific direction in space more than others (the idea i’m getting at is that all movement in space only occurs with interaction with this field), this also would counteract issues with moving mass interacting more on a specific side - the very bias of mass with momentum to absorb more on one side means that from that masses point of view it has the same action potentials interacting from all sides. Mass shielded behind mass receives fewer action potentials so experiences exactly the effect that you can call time dilation. Mass shielding other mass from action potentials also means that mass accelerates towards other mass.
Essentially its the above but instead of a massive particle hitting other mass from all sides it’s a field that allows mass to experience a unit of time.
> earth, in moving around the sun, would impinge on more particles which are coming from its forward side than from its hind side
Would this be true if the speed of particles is constant in all frames of reference?