Don't get sucked into blind rage over nothing. Why do most employees nowadays prefer cash over options in startups? because for every successful startup where the secretary got a vineyard there are 99 when the startup limps along for 12 years and then closes without a sale. Generational wisdom turned into "Dont get suckered for low wage and options, get a high wage and invest in the S&P".

Will there be lucky founders that become very rich? absolutely. Founders are generally very risk aggressive and are willing to go boom or bust. But for an average person that just want a good life why risk lower living standards for a low change of riches?

If you are very risk aggressive you can push for more equity, but expect your salary to be much lower than your peers. Most veteran SE will advise against it.