> If you're pushing, why would the other instance pull from you?

Because instances are not always assumed to be online, or you don't want to push to all the connected instances...

> I have systems at work that have no problem gossiping thousands of updates per second to hundreds of subscribers.

So, I agree with you [0], but it seems that the Lemmy devs think it is not necessary. Be a kind soul and show your PR?

[0]: https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy/issues/3245#issuecomment-1...